Sunday, January 4, 2009

What's Wrong With Women Today

Steve Salerno at SHAMblog discusses one of Oprah's many deranged guest's ("life coach" Marcus Buckingham) step by step guide to life, which he describes thusly:

1. You are the best judge of your strengths. Don't focus so much on
feedback from others. Focus on what makes you feel good about you.
2. If your child comes home from school with 2 As, a B, a C, and an F, most
parents will concentrate on the F, because that's where we think help is needed.
Wrong. We should focus most of our energy on validating the As. Put the emphasis
where the strength is.
3. You have to do what you really want to do, because otherwise, though you
may be outwardly successful, you will feel like an inner failure.
4. If you're doing things because you think "no one else will do
them" should stop.

Now, SB does an excellent job at pointing out several reasons why this advice is completely moronic and would cause the breakdown of society as we know it (including some very insightful references to American Idol), so, if for some reason you can't figure that much out for yourself, read the whole thing.

Here's my concern. For some reason that I have never understood, women like Oprah. From what I hear, quite a lot of them, and they like her quite a bit. Men, not so much (God bless 'em).

And according to Mr. Salerno:

And yet women in Oprah's audience are crying. Crying! They are crying at
the brilliance of this Brit-inflected window into their tormented souls.

Because for many women (at least, women of the Oprah worshiping variety), isn't it always about them, and their tortured soles, and their dreams, which must be followed, and their needs and desires, and most importantly, feelings?

Isn't this why women are initiating divorces at middle age, blindsiding their husbands and families, rather than making any attempt to work out their problems? Isn't this why working in a women-centered office can be so frustrating (if you've actually done that, you'll know what I'm talking about)?

I think that if I were a man, and had to be married to one of these types of women, I'd have a new respect for homosexuality.

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